I want to help lift and build your self-esteem.
This leads to the 5 reasons why I started blogging:
To Help You Be Confident
To Help You Be Happy
To Spread Awareness
To Educate People
To Bring Change to the World
For starters, I want to assure you that I understand and can relate to not feeling confident or happy with yourself. You are not alone in your thoughts and it’s a very healthy and helpful first step to realize so many of us are thinking exactly the same way as you are.
I have battled depression for most of my life. Having always struggled to accept myself as I am – I spent years on anti-depressants and didn’t like how they made me feel – emotionless.
When I found the body-positivity community online, for the first time in my life, I realized that I wasn’t alone. People were opening up to how they felt and I could see that they felt JUST LIKE I DID!
I admired them, thought they were beautiful and inspiring – but I didn’t think I could get there with acceptance for my own self.
I WAS WRONG!
I realized I had spent so much of my life worrying about people judging me that I didn’t allow myself to live life.
I have been overweight since I was a child. I believe around the age of 5 is when I had to start taking steroids for my asthma and my mom said that my weight almost doubled in the first year I was on them. I actually really liked a lot of healthy foods as a kid. In fact, my favourite food growing up was broccoli! However, I was ALWAYS thirsty and if you grew up in the early 90s, I’m sure you remember how popular Kool-Aid was!
In 2019 we likely wouldn’t dream of giving our kids endless amounts of Kool-Aid, but as a kid I drank 2 – 4 pitchers a day of it on average. A full CUP of sugar went into making 1 pitcher. I became so addicted to sugar that I didn’t know how to stop drinking juice and this led to me craving sugar constantly.
I remember being made fun of for being fat. Why is this a thing? Why do we value people for how little space they take up? If you stop to thinking about this for even one minute you will realize how CRAZY this is. Is someone more valuable because they take up less space on the planet? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
Being bullied for the way I looked made me want to crawl into a hole and hide for the rest of my life. Gym class terrified me. This is where I would get picked on the most. I actually enjoyed physical activity – I just wasn’t very good at it! I was the slowest runner, could barely ever hit the ball during a baseball game (and if I did the likeliness I made it to first base before the ball did was slim-to-none), and had no stamina or cardio strength. Kids didn’t encourage me to play – nobody wanted me on their team because I’d bring them down.
This would lead me to do everything I could to avoid going to gym class. This leads to a vicious cycle of
• Never getting more comfortable doing physical activity
• Never getting better at physical activity
• Further isolation from physical activity
We know that physical activity is good for our health. It builds up our cardiovascular system, builds strength, endurance, and stamina. I could list a number of reasons as to why we should all try to participate in physical activity in the ways our bodies are capable of.
Do you know what the number one reason I was told as a child to participate was?
TO LOSE WEIGHT!
This only conditions our minds to think that there is a problem within us. This further perpetuates the broken ideology that our worth is based on how little size we take up.
It does not matter if someone is thin, average size, or overweight – we should all be encouraged to participate in physical activity because it will make us healthier!
Healthier does not necessarily mean weighing less!
When I was about 10 my dad offered me $100 if I could lose 10 lbs. $100 at the age of 10 in the nineties meant I could basically buy whatever I wanted! I’m sure my dad had good intentions and thought it will teach me to be more active and conscious of what I put into my body. Do you think that’s what it taught me though? No! It further conditioned my thoughts to think that there is something wrong with me. I wasn’t good enough. I needed to change in order to be accepted.
A real eye-opener for me was when I realized that companies’ bottom dollar grows the more we feel inadequate about ourselves. The more inadequate you feel about yourself – the more money flows into several of the world’s leading industries:
BEAUTY & COSMETICS:
According to a report published by Zion Market Research, the global cosmetic products market was valued at around USD 532 billion in 2017 and is expected to reach approximately USD 863 billion in 2024.
WEIGHT-LOSS & MANAGEMENT:
According to a report published by Orbis Research, the Weight Loss and Weight Management Market was valued at $168.95 billion in 2016 and is projected to reach a value $278.95 billion at the end of 2023.
MEDIA & ENTERTAINMENT:
According to the 2018 – 2020 Entertainment & Media Outlook by PricewaterhouseCoppers, the global Media & Entertainment market reached $1.9 trillion in 2017 and is projected to reach a value of $2.4 trillion at the end of 2022.
The beauty & weight-loss industries heavily rely on you feeling inadequate about yourself. If you’re confident and content with yourself then they are not making as much money.
End of Story.
The media & entertainment industry adds to our negative reflections of ourselves. People are not perfect. Yet they continue to be portrayed as such and further perpetuate the idea that you are not good enough.
Believe me when I tell you this – you are perfect just the way you are. Confucius said, “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” Truer words were never spoken.
We have been conditioned to not see our own beauty. Every year more and more people go into depression based on their inability to love themselves.
The relationship between self-esteem and depression has been studied heavily. If you refer to this article published in 2017 by Sociol Q. you will see that several independent studies showcase that low self-esteem in adolescents leads to depression in adults. Teens who suffer from low self-esteem are more likely to develop depression as an adult compared to their peers who have moderate to high self-esteem. Teens who are depressed due to their low self-esteem end up being even more depressed as they enter their thirties.
Let’s put a stop to low self-esteem!
There are many reasons I started blogging, but the main reason was to help you build your self-esteem!
If I can do it, you can too! Trust me!
I made this checklist of some things you can do to help boost your self-esteem TODAY!
Only Follow Social Media Accounts That Make You Feel Good.
This is increasingly important. I removed accounts that push the idea that I am more valuable the less space I take up, promote diets and diet-culture, and offer any type of negative message. If you promote laxative based “skinny-teas” – INSTANT REMOVAL!
Let Negative People Go.
Please for the benefit of your life, do not dwell on people who do not lift you up. My inner-circle of friends is filled with people who promote my growth, are positive, and lift me up! Often family members are negative blackholes in our lives and we cannot always remove them permanently. Taking small steps to limit your interaction with negative family members is my best advice to you.
Tell Yourself You Are Worthy And Deserving of Love.
I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH! Even if you don’t feel worthy or deserving of love, please tell yourself this day in and day out. Fake it until you make it right?! It WILL help!
Stop Putting Yourself Down.
Do you constantly find that you’re criticizing yourself or talking badly (even just in your mind) about yourself? STOP! When you find yourself thinking a negative thought, I challenge you to instead replace it with a positive thought about yourself!
These steps will not bring you happiness and self-confidence overnight. With repetition we can learn to break the cycle of inner negativity and train our mind to be content with you just the way you are!
It may not be a quick and easy journey, but it is a worthwhile one!